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What you need to write

  1. A small idea (It’ll grow if you let it out).
  2. A headline (Be clever or use one of those headline formulas you see so many people use).
  3. Small paragraphs (People are busy so it’s easier to skim your short paragraphs).
  4. Someone you care about (Write for someone you think needs to hear your words, it’ll inspire you to keep going).
  5. No one (Don’t think of the critics or the people who will unsubscribe because you’ll soften your words or worse yet not write them at all).
  6. A device (Literally any device will do. I’m writing this entire post on my iPhone in the WordPress app).
  7. A click (You have to hit publish).

I was wrong. I need to rest.

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Never trust anyone who can’t admit they made a mistake.

I’m going to admit a mistake. I thought I should write on this site every day. I was wrong. Then I realized that in my life I’ve created a rhythm. Really I’m obeying a natural rhythm. It’s called resting.

Every natural thing requires rest in order to grow. It’s a law of nature. So in order to stay healthy and keep growing, I need to rest.

If you’re looking for a great book on this topic check out Wayne Muller’s book called Sabbath. He includes a wide range of religious traditions, practical thought and scientific evidence on why rest isn’t just a commandment, it’s also a great thing for anyone who wants to have a great life.

So I won’t be writing on this site on Sundays. Yes, I could schedule a post in advance but I like to write them each day. So this will be my last Sunday post.

I hope you liked it and I hope you had a restful Sunday. If you didn’t get Wayne’s book. It’s worth your time and money.

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Blink hard

As we approached the auditorium where she would perform for hundreds of people I stopped her. I pointed to the building and said to my 10 year old daughter, “Caroline, remember what you are doing here tonight. Remember as much as you can. Blink hard.”

The clichés are true. Minutes become hours, hours become days, days add up into the years that become a life. But it all begins with moments.

To remember those moments I’ve taught myself and my family to blink hard. Choose the moments you want to remember.

Choose to remember moments. Blink hard.

Question of the week: Struggling financially

Why are we afraid to tell others that we are struggling financially?

Comment below.

Why You Haven’t Done That Yet

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NOTE: I have not figured this out. I am figuring this out. 

How much do you have left to do? What incomplete or yet to be started tasks are nagging at you? 

If you don’t possess a God-given productivity gift then do yourself a favor. Never write down a task to be done without a time to do the task.

Tasks without times (deadlines) are regrets waiting to happen. 

Tasks without deadlines are regrets waiting to happen.

Do you start each day by writing down your future regrets? That’s what most to-do lists become. They’re seedlings of regret that are nurtured by our inability to say when we’re going to do the task.

So when you write down a task put it on your calendar.

If It’s Not On Your Calendar Let It Go

If it’s not on your calendar release yourself from the expectation that it’s going to be done anytime soon because it isn’t. 

We make time for the things that matter so if a task matters give it a time.

This works for lazy, undisciplined people and hyper-focused diligent people. That’s what some disciplined people told me.

Websites Are Optional

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Audio of Website Are Optional

You don’t have to have a blogger, podcaster, YouTuber, or influencer. You can be an employee, run a company, be a stay at home parent, or a student.

You don’t have to have an online platform to matter in this world.

Why would a teacher feel pressure to be an online influencer? They’re LITERALLY influencing lives every day.

Why would a mom feel like she’s not doing enough so she starts a blog or starts posting to Instagram, hoping her follower count goes up?

You don’t have to have an online platform to matter in this world.

When did we decide that our off-line life wasn’t enough?

Who told you that your life, the one that doesn’t require a keyboard or a camera, wasn’t enough?

Platforms are a lot of things, but they’re not required.

What’s required of all of us

What’s required is for you to love well, yourself and those closest to you. You need to do your job with integrity. Serve your community. Care about people who need caring for.

The most influence I’ll ever have is on the four people who live in my home. My kids don’t care if I blog and if I stopped writing my life would still have a tremendous impact.

Wherever you are, be an influencer.

Websites are optional.


They are waiting for you

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  • There are people waiting to support what you haven’t been brave enough to put into the world. 
  • There are people waiting to applaud your song, with an unfinished chorus. 
  • There are people waiting to subscribe to your YouTube videos that you won’t make because you think your camera isn’t good enough.
  • There are husbands waiting to have a much needed conversation with their wife that they want to work to improve their marriage after they read your post about your marriage struggles. 
  • There are children waiting to spend more time with their dad because of your encouragement to start coaching their team.
  • There are wives waiting to hear about their husband’s struggle with self-worth and confidence because you gave the husband the words to express himself. 
  • There are people waiting to enjoy their job because they started to see their work as valuable even though they aren’t self-employed.
  • There are people who bought yet another online course promising riches waiting for your reminder that it takes time, and failure, and testing, and refining, and then some more time before success arrives. And sometimes it never comes. 
  • There are people who bought the Full Focus Planner waiting for you to tell them you have to just start using the damn thing if you ever want to figure out how to get the most out of it. 
  • There are people who want to simplify their life waiting for you to tell them which app to use, and which iPhone shortcuts you know about that they don’t. 
  • There are people waiting to start something who need your example of imperfection to remind them “If that guy can do it I can do it.”
  • There are people tired of trying tactics waiting to read words that are vulnerable and honest that remind them without meaning and purpose tactics are empty motions that lead us to more emptiness.
  • There are people who are waiting to hear you say, “I don’t know what is coming but I know I can’t get there unless I move forward.”

That was my list, now write yours. 

There are people waiting for you to do something.  

From What if? to What is.

Adorning The Dark by Andrew Peterson

He wrote this as he walked home, after finishing one of his books.

The walk down the hill to our sleepy house was the crossing of a threshold. It was a transition from the world of “what if?” to the world of “what is.” 

Andrew Peterson – Adorning The Dark

We were made to make things.

What’s a meal like for a chef? It’s full of preparation and then execution, a culmination of years of training.

What’s a meal like for the diner? They experience it, and enjoy it, but the experience is drastically different.

Who enjoys the meal more?

We are all diners, but how many of us are chefs? How many of us put the time in to learn a craft, train, try, fail, hone, improve and become good? 

Consumption is satisfying, there’s no doubting that, but when we consume it’s over. We’ve experienced it as an individual.

When we create, depending on the medium, uncountable people could be influenced. 

What do you need to make? Make it. 

Giving belief

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You can give belief.

It’s an actual thing, a tangible, measurable thing you can give. It’s not measured in inches or pounds but you know when it’s lacking or when there’s enough.  

You have more power over others than you think you do. 

Much is made about the power of belief. “Whether you believe you can or you can’t, you’re right.” So goes the cliché. 

But do we understand the power of our belief in others or are we so wrapped up in our own personal pep talks that we forget that others need our belief as well? 

Nothing is more powerful than belief

Nothing is more powerful than belief.

Belief is the most powerful thing in the world. From belief comes love, violence, industry, poems, divorce, racism, sexism, scholarships, financial investment…everything really. 

Every action starts with a belief 

They will either become what they could be or miss out on their potential. Parents do this for their childen but it’s larger than that. It’s for everyone in every relationship. 

You. Yes, you have that power to influence others. 

Belief is so powerful, with it you can change anyone’s life, anyone’s.

Who do you believe in? 

When’s the last time you told them?

We all need belief, and sometimes we have to borrow it from someone else. 

Go give belief, it’s a powerful gift.

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The Appeal of Weak Leaders

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If you’re heading into a battlefield you want a leader who is strong and confident. If your team is taking the field you want a coach who is confident she has a winning game plan. There are some situations where a leader who shows weaknesses is a bad idea. 


And then there are the other 98% of situations where admitting weaknesses is a good idea. 


If someone can’t admit they have weaknesses they’re not worth listening to. 


Pastors and politicians are the two groups I think of who fall in this trap the most.

Pastor and politicians fall into the trap of trying to appear perfect. It’s a trap for them and us and traps should always be avoided.

Politicians won’t show weaknesses because they want to be reelected. Pastors don’t want to show weakness because they feel a need to perpetuate the myth that pastors are super human or they’re prideful enough to believe that they are actually super human. 

I can’t listen to people who won’t or can’t admit their weaknesses. I won’t work for someone who can’t admit to weaknesses. I won’t sit under the teaching of someone who can’t admit their weaknesses. 

Why Follow The Weak?

We’re all weak, and we can learn from each other’s weaknesses. Alcoholics Anonymous meetings are led by people who understand the struggle of alcoholism. They understand the struggle and they are more helpful and compassionate and effective because of it. 


Following someone who readily admits weaknesses means they’re aware of them and are willing to disclose them publicly, which means they’re also inviting accountability. 


This is someone I’ll listen to. 


So, sorry if you’ve got all of your crap together and you’ve got nothing but smiles all the time. I’m not buying it. 


Optimism? I’ve got plenty of it. Confidence? I’m not lacking. Joy? I’ve got enough for me and some left over to share. 


But life is hard sometimes and I want to follow people who know and admit that reality for themselves. 

The weight of perfection


Turns out being perfect is a lot of work because no one’s perfect so you have to lie about some parts of your life. 


I don’t follow liars and neither should you. So let’s get real and follow people who are honest about the struggle. 


We’re all more likely to overcome a struggle when we admit we’re in the middle of one.